In museums I always find myself stopping and staring at portraits and paintings of mother and child – to help remind me of how amazing life really is – past all the negative. A mother has a way of putting their family at peace and sometimes the world at ease. Thank you to all the mothers in the world for what you stand for, and for all that you do.
The older I get, the more I understand where my mother is coming from – when doing and saying the things that she did and does. Although I raise my eyebrow on occasion, okay, okay, on more than one occasion, I realize after a heated discussion or a disagreement that she is mostly or absolutely right in her assessment or observation or prediction of all things pertaining to my well-being. Some of you may not agree – and that’s fine. But I think my conclusion is that, it also depends on the type of relationship one has with her mother. In my case, I am very close to her and do tell her everything, and even when her first reaction is to be very critical, she means well, and this is something I perfected over the years – our efforts to have clear and open communication. This is what I have to say and here is what they say:
Sometimes all we need are pictures… Have a wonderful day!!!
Just when I think the dust is settling on a few glitches in life, another set of issues have come up, where I am under pressure to make a decision either this way or that. What’s funny is, those who know me enough, wonder how it is I manage to remain so cool and collected while juggling what life is dishing out. Little do they know that on the inside, I am in turmoil, like everyone else, over the choices or the decisions I am making and whether they are the right ones. Especially when I get the gut feeling either way I decide, it isn’t really going to be the best. This time however, I decided to go online and see if there is anything helpful or can validate what I believe to be the best of the decisions. Or perhaps help me in making sure I understand there is no right or wrong in a decision, only what I am hoping is the right one at the time I am deciding. And so …
Whatever the reason, all of us, at some point or another in our lives felt/feel the need for a career change. Sometimes voluntary and other times by force. The difficulty is being able to put yourself out there with a resume that will grab the attention of a recruiter past the algorithm set to weed out – believe it or not – boring resumes and those with the least qualifications. I say boring because there is a set list of words an employer is looking for to even consider glancing over your resume, or skill set and if your CV is not vocabulary savvy, then your resume is tossed into the cyber-trash. Sorry to be so blunt – but I’ve learned a thing or two over the years while speaking with many recruiters and human resource personnel and feel the need to pass on the information. So to start off, this topic is an article plus illustrations about the best skills you would need to include in your resume to help get you started: And a …
After the much needed purging/cleaning up the house, scheduling donations and curb-side pickup the entire month of January, I am finally ready to tackle the rest of putting my life in order. You know, documentation, files, passwords, and will. Believe it or not, it’s never to early but it is too late when something unplanned happens. So to make life easier for my beneficiaries, I have taken the following into consideration when organizing – simply put- how it should go down when I am no longer living and breathing. Apparently there are 12 documents we need to have ready and easily accessible. Will Why you need it: To choose an executor and spell out your final wishes for how your estate should be distributed after you die. What happens without it: You die “intestate” and your assets go through probate, where your state’s intestacy laws determine how to pay your debts and distribute your assets according to survivorship rights in that state, McMillan says. Living Revocable Trust Why you need it: To retain control of your assets while …
Four weeks later, and I am still experiencing sadness over the early-passing of a beloved family pet. What sucks the most is that I wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night, wondering if there was more any of us could have done to prevent it. But then after a good cry-hyperventilation, I reflect upon all the signs in the past year, leading to his faith three weeks ago. Heartbreak sucks. Past the emotional pain, there is the physical aches I’ve never felt before, or rather some discomfort worsened since January 22nd. Here’ what apparently happens to our bodies when we experience the worst of heart-breaks: Hormonal change – When you experience a heartbreak and are upset, the happiness hormones turn off and are replaced by cortisol and epinephrine; the stress hormones. All that happiness and joy is channeled and turned into anxiety and stress. When stress hormones chronically linger, a person’s ability to form and make new memories starts to reduce. It is probably a coping mechanism developed by the brain in …
We all do this. When in a relationship, we question commitment when it comes to the matters of the heart. Mostly wondering if we are loved just as we’ve read in novels, or seen in movies and learned of fairy tales about happily ever after. But on this Valentine season, I ask, past all the fantasy, how do we measure true love? And here’s what I found. According to the book The Seven Laws Of Love – these are the terms: According to a psychologist – these are the five things that will help you fall in love or lead you to love And then there are these helpful reminders: The simple facts are – love should be: When someone truly loves you, they will make “face time” a priority. There’s no substitute for it. There’s no volume of text messages or emails that can equate to the moments you spend looking a loved one in the eyes. Simply put, when we love someone, we will make it a priority to be near them. …
I do countless hours of self-reflecting – especially after every incident, good or bad, in my life. I wonder if my handling of a situation was the best approach. Or the fact, why is it people are intimated by me, then there are days, I feel as if I am not getting through to anyone. So I evaluate, troubleshoot, and either I come out of it disappointed in myself, or I hold my head high, positive that I did or said the right thing, even if seemingly too objective or somewhat constructive, or totally negative to others. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad one – but I found an article that defines my strong personality – or they are simply labeling it as ‘strong’ – it could very well be perceived as a bad trait. Who knows – but I am curious to hear your opinion, especially if you experience the same things. So here it goes – 8 Signs That You Have A Strong Personality That Might Intimidate Some …
Self-discovery is something we do, more so when we are faced with a traumatic event – such as losing a loved one, a job, an unexpected breakup, health issues, and even children acting out in ways so very unpredicted. The suffering we endure is the most traumatic and although most of us have gone through similar situations at one point or another, there are no words that could ease the individualized hardship we face or have faced. I know in my case, the most I am told is ‘time will heal all wounds’ and yes it does, but what is the measure of time when coping with a traumatic event. A week, a month, a year, a decade. The only thing that has helped me is that I don’t look at timelines. Meaning to say, I don’t wait around for the universe to dictate if I am ready to grow from my pain and suffering. I simply do my best daily to distract, to pamper, and to move on slowly in bits and pieces. Sure …
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