All posts tagged: mother daughter relationship

Friday Reads You Might Appreciate

As our world turns, in many ways this year, I cannot help but feel helpless, overwhelmed and sad by either direction all matters are heading. And since I struggle with a form of anxiety, I try to focus mostly on the positive in order to get me through. However, that does not mean all these thought are not racing through my head…and perhaps even yours? Topics which have me thinking and pondering this morning are: How emotionally sensitive are you? Is it a good or bad thing – take this quiz to find out. Does Scandinavian self care really work? Why we need older women in the workplace you might want to know is a topic that came to mind after a friend called to discuss her struggle with age-in-a-workplace. The truth about losing a parent – has been on my mind as I watch my mother’s health on the decline faster these days and the idea of it all has me scared I don’t believe in regret, I only believe life happens to you …

Food: How To Dice and Slice And Clean

My mother marvels at my style of cooking, cutting and even baking. To put it bluntly, she doesn’t understand why I do the things I do. So we talk about it of course, while I nearly slice my finger off, from all the stress of her scrutinizing my technique. But you know what? At least I’ll have many fond-ish memories of this time together in the kitchen. I need to stop and explain here for  second.  Cooking in our culture is a ritual, and each recipe is managed in the most artistic of ways to create a meal – where my mother, her mother and I’m sure her mother before – would remind the impatient generations afterwards that  ‘a woman must cook with her meal’ – which I never agreed with as a young child or a teenager. But now I get it. Although, I still prefer quick methods and easy recipes to follow.  BUT! since we are on lock down and I’ve chosen to revisit or refresh all of our cultural recipes during this …

Dinner Plans and Discussions About Small Spaces

What’s for dinner is the topic of discussion every morning when I run upstairs to my mother’s house and help with breakfast. She says good morning, I say hello, and she says, so what’s for dinner tonight? I mean I know you are working from home and I don’t want to bother you, but what are the plans for dinner? and I look at my watch. 🙂 Then I go downstairs to my home-office space and search frantically for a creative meal that she would enjoy also. Because the last thing I want to hear when I ask her how dinner was, is  – oh its fine – meanwhile I’m having seconds. So, for dinner tonight – we are having  this recipe for eggplant Parmesan – did you know male eggplants are better tasting then the female since they have less seeds? I didn’t know, but learned it now.   Also technically, my eggplant Parmesan will be more of an eggplant lasagna – since I will be adding pasta-lasagna in between the eggplant and cheese layers. …

Food: Lemon, Coconut (Birthday) Cake In Honor of One of My Favorite Gals

In case you are home today, or are feeling a need for a pick me up – I suggest you bake this cake and then eat a slice with a cup of Jo or Earl Gray, the real kind, not the fabricated flavors some tea makers are using these days – read the label to be sure it is truly Bergamot oils infused tea leaves. Oh and here’s the cake recipe – INGREDIENTS 3/4 cup melted coconut oil, cooled 1/2 cup plain greek yogurt 3 large eggs 1 1/2 cups granulated sugar 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 1 cup canned full fat coconut milk 3 cups all purpose flour 1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda 1 1/2 teaspoons baking powder 1 teaspoon kosher salt 1 tablespoon lemon zest 1 cup shredded sweetened coconut, plus more for layering HONEY LEMON SYRUP 1/4 cup lemon juice 1/3 cup honey WHIPPED VANILLA BUTTERCREAM 3 sticks (1 ½ cups) salted butter, at room temperature 2 ounces cream cheese, at room temperature 1 1/2 cups powdered sugar 1/3 cup honey 1 teaspoon vanilla extract, or vanilla bean powder  {more} Happy Birthday My Dear MAL – I heart you every day… {recipe and featured image source}

The Thing About Mothers and Daughters

The older I get, the more I understand where my mother is coming from – when doing and saying the things that she did and does. Although I raise my eyebrow on occasion, okay, okay, on more than one occasion, I realize after a heated discussion or a disagreement that she is mostly or absolutely right in her assessment or observation or prediction of all things pertaining to my well-being. Some of you may not agree – and that’s fine. But I think my conclusion is that, it also depends on the type of relationship one has with her mother. In my case, I am very close to her and do tell her everything, and even when her first reaction is to be very critical, she means well, and this is something I perfected over the years – our efforts to have clear and open communication. This is what I have to say and here is what they say: